First off a big thank you to my pal Jamy for hooking a gal up with yet another lovely piece of art.Secondly I got this tattoo knowing I'd have to explain it a lot.It is after all a crucified pregnant lady,I don't think it's as morbid as it sounds but may not sit right with some crowds.Don't question my art is something I find myself thinking often but I don't mind explaining it so ready?Here we go!
I love tattoos and I believe you should always get something that means something to you,you're less likely to regret it one day if it has meaning to you versus getting a piece of flash off a wall.I've been judged often all through out my life.From my upbringing,my fashion sense,my taste in music,my politics,my faith and I've taken it all in stride I think.But NOTHING could prepare me for the judgment I would receive when I became a mother.
Now there is a certain martyrdom that comes with motherhood.Humans are selfish by nature and we have to let that part of us die when we become mothers,or at least if we want to be a decent one.It's no longer about all about us.That's part of of the symbolism behind my tattoo.
The second and larger part is the constant ridicule we put ourselves under for the love of our children.We as a society crucify mothers for our choices we make for our children.Bottle fed vs. Breast,cloth vs. disposable diapers,to vaccinate or not and so on and so forth.When our perfect little angels act the fool in public you'll often find instead of a sympathetic nod and smile of "hey I've been there before" you're often met with heads being shaken in disgust and a scowl.Constant judgment.
So for me this symbolizes all that and is a reminder that I'm not a perfect mother but I'm a darn good one.At first glance we may not fit in the norm of society but my children are smart,well cared for and truly loved and it's ok for people to assume whatever they want about me because it doesn't change the fact that I'm doing a good job.Also it's a reminder for me (who is a mother that cloth diapers,breastfeeds and chooses green vaccines) that my way is just that,mine and not to crucify another mom for what she does with hers.The saying that it takes a village to raise a child seems lost now a days.I want to be supportive,I don't know why as women we feel the need to tear each other down.